Relationships & mental health
Relationships and mental health can both impact each other. Mental ill-health can put pressure on couples. And relationships ending – or becoming unhealthy or toxic – can contribute to mental health issues.
Ruby’s story
Ruby suffered with depression and anxiety for a while. Things got worse each time a relationship ended. This is Ruby’s story in her own words…
“I’ve been suffering with depression and anxiety for over a year now. It started just after my long term relationship broke down. I felt low and had trouble eating and sleeping.
“After a few weeks, I went to the doctors. At first they referred me for counselling, but I didn’t feel ready to engage with it. Things didn’t improve, so I went back. This time they prescribed anti-depressants and I felt ready to start the counselling.
“Things started to improve – my moods, my eating and my sleeping. I felt like things were looking up. But then it hit me even worse. I started feeling extremely low… helpless… lost… worthless. And completely alone.
“Things at home were difficult and I needed to move out. This had a massive impact on my mental health. I got to the point where I didn’t want to be here anymore. I felt like everyone would be better off without me.
“When I moved out, nothing improved. I started self-harming again and felt suicidal. My doctor gave me stronger anti-depressants, but it didn’t help.
“Months went by. Another relationship broke down. I was still struggling – struggling to the point where I tried to take my own life with an overdose. In hospital, I finally got the right treatment and saw a mental health worker.
“Spending the night at hospital made me realise that – actually – I do want to be here. I do matter. I’m still struggling with my mental health and having assessments for other mental disorders. But I’m glad I’m still here – and I know one day it’ll get easier.”
Struggling?
Ruby’s story is unique to her. But loads of people struggle when their relationship breaks down. If you’re feeling fragile or finding it hard to cope after a relationship has ended, we’re here to listen when you’re ready to talk.